Autism: Surviving and Thriving

Fourteen years ago my youngest 3 boys were diagnosed with autism within a 9 month span. Devastation and grieving followed. Doctors gave me little or no hope, but they didn't know me very well. I refused to believe that my boys were doomed.

My boys are now young men, adults with autism. They are thriving, but every day presents its turmoil and challenges.

My family: husband Mike, sons Ryan 23 yr, Nicholas 21 yr, and Cameron 18 yr. (Ryan and Nick have autism; Cam has recovered from autism.) Our oldest sons, Michael 34 yr and Stuart 25 yr, moved out of the house. Ryan has also moved out, and is still working towards complete independence.

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Mamas On The Run

My mom and me
My mom and I have escaped to her hometown in Michigan.  I was pregnant with Nicholas when I last visited my relatives, 18 years ago.

When I was growing up, my family and I visited Michigan every other year, on average.  Our vacations always included visiting cousins, grandparents, and extended family.  We usually drove throughout the country and stayed with family members.  It was rare to stay at a hotel. The best parts of our vacations were not the activities or sight-seeing tours.  The best parts were being around family, or doing those sight-seeing excursions with family.

I wanted to continue these outings with my own family.  Unfortunately, travelling with kids with autism is difficult as their schedules are interrupted.  Staying with extended family is tough because the relatives don't quite understand what can trigger a meltdown or tantrum.  Relatives are not usually aware of sensory issues or lack of communication skills my boys have.

In the last couple of years, we have started to travel with our boys.  They have learned to adapt well.  I have include them in planning, so they will know what to expect.  They usually look forward to the adventures.

This trip is without the kids.  Unlike most vacations, this trip has a purpose:  to see my Godparents, who are my mom's brother and sister-in-law.  Too many years have sped by, and we are all much older.  Most of our time is spend sitting and chatting, catching up.  Not the type of activity that my boys could endure for long.  So, it's just my mom and me.

photo credit:  Michelle Nicolai-Hoffmeyer


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