Autism: Surviving and Thriving

Fourteen years ago my youngest 3 boys were diagnosed with autism within a 9 month span. Devastation and grieving followed. Doctors gave me little or no hope, but they didn't know me very well. I refused to believe that my boys were doomed.

My boys are now young men, adults with autism. They are thriving, but every day presents its turmoil and challenges.

My family: husband Mike, sons Ryan 23 yr, Nicholas 21 yr, and Cameron 18 yr. (Ryan and Nick have autism; Cam has recovered from autism.) Our oldest sons, Michael 34 yr and Stuart 25 yr, moved out of the house. Ryan has also moved out, and is still working towards complete independence.

Showing posts with label anniversary. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anniversary. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

25th Anniversary Celebration

Today is our 25th anniversary.  Mike planned our ten day getaway.
In Alaska
We took a seven day cruise to Alaska.  We did things out of my comfort zone, and we had a wonderful time.

We then went to meet up with Mike's family in Northern CA.  We had a great time catching up with the extended family.  I showed pictures of our boys.  They hardly recognized our boys, as the boys are "all grown up".
Mike with siblings and Dad

We travelled onward to the wine country.  We did a few wine and food tastings.  Quite elegant.  And educational.  I need a few more (actually any lessons) cooking lessons on cooking and how to compare/contrast wines with foods.

We spent our 25th anniversary with just each other.  We had thoughts and discussions of doing the entire rendition of renewing vows and reception after.  We couldn't quite agree on that.  So we ended up spending the day with just each other.
Sheryl and Mike

That was perfect.

We have never been away from our kids this long.  They are older and are more independent.  The grandparents stepped in to oversee schedules.  I have some reassurance that our house won't burn down.

In the life of autism, this is paramount: to not forget the couple we are.  Husband and Wife.  As long as our relationship is intact, autism does not define who we are, although it is a part of our lives. We are happy, and our job is to make sure that our kids get what they need to do what they wish to pursue.  God willing, we will be blessed with more years of happy marriage, in which we support our boys.

Cheers!

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Happy 23rd Anniversary

Mike & Sheryl:  23rd Anniversary
Time.  We either embrace it or endure it.  That, of course, is a matter of attitude.

My husband, Mike, helps me maintain a positive attitude.  I've known him now for half of my life.  Today we celebrate our 23rd anniversary.  It's been a rough road, but no matter what we've experienced, we have done it together.

With our kids getting older, our lives will be evolving into another sphere.  Adult kids.  Adult kids with autism.  Not too much is written about this facet of autism, let alone marriages THRIVING with adult kids with autism.

Mike and I are taking time to be a couple.  Twenty-three years of marriage doesn't just happen.  Lots of communication, understanding, patience, forgiveness, prayer, etc. have contributed to our happy life.  Not every second is happy, but we persevere at those moments.  Commitment.

Whatever happens, we're in this life together.  Cheers to whatever comes this year!