Autism: Surviving and Thriving

Fourteen years ago my youngest 3 boys were diagnosed with autism within a 9 month span. Devastation and grieving followed. Doctors gave me little or no hope, but they didn't know me very well. I refused to believe that my boys were doomed.

My boys are now young men, adults with autism. They are thriving, but every day presents its turmoil and challenges.

My family: husband Mike, sons Ryan 23 yr, Nicholas 21 yr, and Cameron 18 yr. (Ryan and Nick have autism; Cam has recovered from autism.) Our oldest sons, Michael 34 yr and Stuart 25 yr, moved out of the house. Ryan has also moved out, and is still working towards complete independence.

Friday, April 2, 2010

End of Week Two: PAYDAY

I have officially finished two weeks of working full time, and we have survived. At home the laundry needs folding, but at least the boys have CLEAN, wrinkled clothes. They work together to get dinner done. Sometimes Dad or Grandma does help with directions of a recipe or supervising any needed cooking. My kids are learning skills that they will need in life. Overall, I am impressed with my dudes! What a great payoff!

Now for me... I looked at my checking account, and POOF, direct deposit yielded a nice sum of money. So cool!

Now for the "not so fun" side: I am juggling the home schooling, piano teaching, grocery shopping and working.

The home schooling is not smooth, but some of my kids are maintaining their schedule quite well. Other kids need prompting. I am not going to name anyone yet... I do remind them that whatever they don't get done now will have to be done over the summer. They don't like that idea. Grumble, grumble, but it gets done.

Piano lessons are going smoothly, just scheduled a little later in the day.

Grocery shopping is still my domain, "realm" if I think like royalty. I have to work out a way so that my 18 year old can start taking this on. He can drive a car. Can he manage a cart? Grocery shopping just cuts into time that I really need to use for home schooling. Feel a change coming? Yep.

Working. I enjoy my coworkers. I've found that business casual in AZ is different than CA 15 yrs ago. Shorts? T-shirts? When I last worked in Corporate America, business casual meant a collared shirt, dress pants, etc. Other changes: People talk about personal issues more freely. And the language? I remember when people got fired for using "those" words.

Anyways, the work itself requires a lot of reading, and I enjoy it. I love getting out of the house and being with adults. Having conversations about many subjects with many people is so new. The best part of all, of course, is getting that first paycheck. Yippee.

The payoff so far as been so much more than cash for my kids and myself!
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2 comments:

  1. I had to laugh with your description of business casual - P&G has reissued dress guidelines after too many ripped jeans, hoodies, bare midriffs...I definitely felt my age, too!! Congratulations on pulling off the first two weeks :)

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  2. Pauline- It gets really mmm ... interesting when the females wear (let's say) snug clothing or the males have the shorts hanging off the tush... just isn't business as usual.

    And our age (since we're only a year apart) should show wisdom. So many of these people are 10-20 years older than us too!

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