The Battle Ends: Summer School Results

Summer school ended. Ryan and Nick both earned As in the computer class. Wish it were that simple!

The class was very frustrating for the boys and us. This class consumed our summer vacation time. We spent hours with the boys and their assignments. Ryan caught on fairly well, but Nick was extremely frustrated.

My husband and I shared Nick's frustration, but ours was directed at the teacher and administration. We met with the teacher and principal or vice principal several times. Our main concern was the content of the class, not the speed of the class. The course catalog described an introduction to the computer. Instead, this class demanded a creation of a small business, which entailed business plans and goals and much more. I won't go into the details here, but the frustration was really due to the administration focusing on the speed of the class, not content.

Before I had signed up the boys for this class, I had talked with numerous people at my boys' schools. I talked with counselors, psychologists, case managers, and teachers. They all agreed that this beginner computer class would help my kids throughout high school. It would also be a needed life skill. All were on board.

My husband conveyed this to the summer school hierarchy. The vice principal of the regular high school was called. (I assume this as we never saw her on the summer school campus.) She told the summer school principal that we never spoke with her.

I felt like I was thrown under the bus. After that call, the summer school administration refused to work with us, even though we had an IEP. They simply stated that "this is what we're going to do." We had no more say.

We could have hired an attorney and fought it. However, the energy and money to do so would have been more than we could generate. Maybe the school counted on that. My husband and I decided to spend that time and energy teaching the boys ourselves. THAT is why the boys earned As in that class.

This makes me rethink the home schooling vs public schooling. Parents always remain the primary educators, no matter what!

Summer School Adventure

For the last two weeks my teens with autism have been in summer school. It's a four hour course, four days a week, for four weeks. It's the equivalent of a semester of school. I asked Ryan and Nick if they wanted to try this class. My hope is that their regular school year will be less stressful by taking a required class over the summer. They will be able to focus on one class, which is much easier for kids with autism to do.

I also have an ulterior motive. Ryan and Nick are very different, and I hope that their skills will benefit each other. For example, Nick is a perfectionist. He will study until he knows it, even if he fills himself with anxiety. No breaks. This sounds like a mother's dream; he has an incredible work ethic. However, he gets chest pains, shortness of breath, and headaches. Not good.

On the other hand, Ryan is laid back when it comes to studying. There is always tomorrow, even if that final is tomorrow. Ryan has little concept of time. If there is a worksheet to complete, he can do that. There is a definitive beginning and end. However, studying? NOT going to happen unless he is prompted by me.

Another idea is that Nick, who is very social, will enable or inspire Ryan to talk. Nick has a difficult time talking, but he's not afraid to try. Ryan can talk quite well, but he prefers to not engage in conversation. Nick will self-advocate; Ryan will not.

We'll see how the two compliment or compete with each other.

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