Thank God for grandparents!! They spoil our kids. They give forbidden treats behind our backs. They let the kiddos stay up late. Grandmas might even bake gluten free cookies for them.
For parents with kids with autism, grandparents can be more than the mellow, nice version of the people who raised us. Grandparents can offer wisdom and reprieve to parents with shaken nerves and overtaxed brains.
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| My Mom |
The flip side is that grandparents can give suggestions (or criticize) and cause more stress, although their intentions may have been good. Grandparents may only see their grandkids with autism occasionally and not understand the intricacies of daily life. Visits can be bittersweet. Taking time to chat can be a hardship, but constant routine is necessary in the life of autism.
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| My Dad |
In my case, my parents are about 40 miles away--far enough to breath, close enough to help. They know most of the tasks and goals of my sons with autism. This last summer they took on the task of helping the boys passing their drivers permit test. Goal accomplished. With LOTS of patience.
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| Mike's Mom |
My husband's parents live in another state. Their visits are fewer. They can see more distinct progression or regression; something that we might miss. They always want to know what's going on, to help the boys. Sometimes it's hard to describe everything concisely, but we try.
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| Mike and his Dad |
Both sets of grandparents help at family gatherings and events. Loud noises and strange people always stress out the boys, so having those extra eyes and hands of grandparents can help ease anxiety--both of the boys and me.
I'm very grateful to both sets of grandparents. Happy Grandparents Day!!
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